Some people tell you something very painful is going on in their life but defend the perpetrator with phrases like “he’s willing to go to counseling” when clearly only one member of the relationship actually cares and is willing to make changes. I know of two beautiful young women who have sustained relationships throughout their … Read more
The holiday season can magnify feelings of loneliness, especially when we’re the only one without the picture-perfect, fun-loving family. In this video, I share my heart on navigating the pain of estranged relationships, particularly when narcissistic dynamics keep others, including children, loyal to the abuser. It’s never easy, but I’ve learned to trust that when … Read more
Silencing one’s voice is the most powerful way abusers keep their victims in good public standing while experiencing torture in the privacy of the relationship. We must all learn to use our voices effectively; that skill takes practice. If you’re not good at it, you haven’t practiced. Keep trying; don’t write it off. It’s a … Read more
When I was at one of my lowest points before beginning my recovery journey in 2012, I had a counselor tell me that if I took care of myself, it would radiate into the lives of the people I loved. I was so desperate that I had no choice but to take her wise advice. … Read more
I have been publicly sharing my recovery from the traumatic effects of living in narcissistic abuse until recently when I found and believed in safety. This is a summary of the mental illness and how I recovered through self-care and my faith in God. For updates on my upcoming book, the Bible on Narcissistic Abuse, … Read more
Depression hurts, but we can do the hard work required to heal from it if we are willing to self-reflect. If we have been abused by those who criticized and put us down, we struggle with seeing our shortcomings. There is no room for self-reflection in survival mode. We seem selfish and narcissistic, but we … Read more
People who have never experienced the traumatic effects of narcissistic abuse think about situations from their point of view. They often judge victims for not making the decisions that they would have made, having not developed mental illness from traumatic abuse and neglect from people we turned to for love and support. To recover from … Read more
“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the … Read more
Play Video Depression hurts, but we can do the hard work required to heal from it if we are willing to self-reflect. If we have been abused by those who criticized and put us down, we struggle with seeing our shortcomings. There is no room for self-reflection in survival mode. We seem selfish and narcissistic, … Read more