One thing I have learned recently is I am an introvert. Perhaps, I am an extroverted introvert?
Nonetheless, my soul requires the same kind of space that introverts need to thrive. I need time alone. I demand downtime to be my best. I have found myself married to “Fun Guy.” He can come up with something exhilarating to do every second of every day. I discovered I have to stand up for my personal needs and differences. I can’t keep up. I don’t want to keep up. I’m standing up for the person God made me to be.
I am free of guilt, shame, and fear in caring for my soul.
It would be easy to be self-conscious about the way I am when I look at others. I am, however, working hard to honor my needs. When I first met my husband, I was intoxicated with emotion. I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t say ‘no’ to anything fun, whatsoever. Two years in, my true self is beginning to emerge. She eats, sleeps and needs limits on activities. Fortunately, my husband loves me every which way I am, and I am in an environment where I feel safe to honor my ‘self.’
I don’t drink, so while alcohol can often be part of the equation to get a lot of people out and about, I’m more likely to find myself resistant to some activities knowing there isn’t coffee or sparkling water. Don’t get me wrong, when I get out with people where I can connect, I love it. I love people. I love to socialize but, I require a steady flow of alone and down time. My husband, on the other hand, seemingly can go on and on and on. I require gaps in my calendar so I can have time to meditate, take a nap, or be available to help someone God puts in my path. Bryan sees space in his calendar and inserts activity. He believes they don’t bury anything that moves. I believe the years of my movement will be significantly less if I don’t pace myself.
How about you? Are you true to yourself? Are you surrounding yourself with people who understand your personality?
I never really understood this about myself until recently when I began to invest in self-care.
Now I see that I love people and doing fun things, but I require complete down time and solitude on a regular basis to function properly.
In coaching, we identify tolerances in our lives. Often when we don’t stop and evaluate how we tolerate what we are doing,not doing or exposing ourselves to on a day-to-day basis. We continue to be immersed with energy drainers. We overlook what we really need, and life feels harder than it needs to.
Is there something in your life you are tolerating, like going out too much, not enough or having no breaks in your schedule? Could you be suffering from possibly no planned activities, or no social commitments? One thing I know for sure is we all thrive in community, even if that thriving comes with our own unique exposure to other people.
Contact me for Soul Coaching, and we can work together to determine what makes you tick and make sure you are on a trajectory to have balance and margin in your life so that you are thriving.