Category: Personal Growth

Long before Brangolina and the like were around, I created a blended name for a man who impacted my life, though I bet he never knew it. He was Glen Lempke, my bike coach in high school. He was a tech guy, like my husband, and taught all the courses I wasn’t interested in, so…

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The Cost of Inauthenticity

The Cost of Inauthenticity

I know a lot of people who sacrifice their authentic self; the person God ordained to bring into the world, for a purpose, for such a time as this. Reason: to stay in the ‘comforts’ of the façade and the ruts they have let the foundation of their lives manifest in. This is not a…

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Self Care is Not an Option; It’s a Requirement

We are all given free will, especially when it comes to caring for ourselves, but what about how our free will impacts those who love us. Recently I was asked to pray confidentially for a friend’s loved one whose body is shutting down, (please join us in prayer). I can see the turmoil in this…

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What to Do With Fear

What to do with Fear We all have a degree of fear. To some, it’s an annoyance that requires a slight lifestyle adjustment now and then. However many people feel absolutely paralyzed by certain fears. There are some people who cannot leave their home. Fear ranges from “I can’t drive across the bridge,” “I need…

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Letting Go

Letting Go… I have been in a season of growing with God. Although I have faced great joy, there has deep heartache and sorrow through my divorce and moving to Frederick. One of the hardest things I have had to face was the reality that some of my children seemingly chose (for lack of a…

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Follow Your Heart

follow your heart
One of the byproducts of having a creative brain that does not efficiently consume information is that I skated through school cramming for exams, passing classes and moving on with minimal retention. If I have visited a venue, heard a story, or met a crucial player in a historical event, channels for learning have passed through my mind.

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Being Prepared Emotionally for The Unexpected - https://chaneygang.com/charlotteold

Imagine someone crashes into your car while you are at a stop light.

Worse yet, you hadn’t taken the time to put on your seatbelt. What could have been a fender bender becomes that, plus bruises, cuts, and broken ribs? All because you didn’t prepare for the unexpected.
What about having your life in a steady state of chaos when you get the news that your child has cancer? Taking simple steps can prepare you for life’s unexpected events. It will not prevent things from happening, but can certainly equip us to overcome the unexpected.

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In my meditation class we were presented with an example of breaking pain into pieces.Many of you know what it means to experience emotional paralysis.
Paralyze as defined by Dictionary.com is: “to bring to a condition of helpless stoppage, inactivity, or inability to act:”
Over the past few years, I have encountered painful truths that I never envisioned I’d face in my prayer-infused, faith-based bubble. Traumatized, describes my soul when I came face to face with the unfathomable duplicity that existed in my home.
Throughout my emotional recovery, I have gained incredible tools. I trust I can offer fresh ideas for your journey as well.

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Trust

When you suffer betrayal, you begin to develop callouses that barricade the tenderness of your soul.

The reason I trust God with everything I’ve got is that He has exhibited Himself to me, through the firestorms of my life. It’s not that He rescued me from them when He most certainly could have, but rather He joined me in them and proved to me He is enough in every circumstance. As the old hymn says “How I’ve proved Him o’er and o’er,”
-Tis So Sweet to Trust in Jesus.
My faith wasn’t always that solid. In the early days of my walk with God, I was angry. God had saved my soul from Hell but did not fix my devastating marriage. To the best of my human ability, I did all I felt He was asking me to do as a Christian wife and for years I begged and pleaded for Him to change our marriage.

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Back from Hiatus…Game On!

Back from Hiatus…Game On!

Back from Hiatus...Game On!
It’s been so long since I’ve blogged, my creativity has been paralyzed by life experiences.  I have come to discover that what I thought was reality, was not. I am now painfully at the finish line of a 23-year marriage, that I gave my all to, and the starting line of more than I could ask or imagine.
Both realities carry equal emotional weight.
I resisted leaving the toxicity of my marriage for years, for many reasons. Besides the longing to give my boys the intact family I wish I had, the church certainly played a role and I cringed at the thought of doing what God hates. Every good Christian knows “For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel.” Malachi 2:16 

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