How to Be True to Yourself

When I first met my husband, I was intoxicated with emotion. I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t say ‘no’ to anything fun whatsoever. Two years in, my true self is beginning to emerge. She eats, sleeps and needs limits on activities. Fortunately, my husband loves me every which way I am, and I am in an environment where I feel safe to honor my ‘self.'

One thing I have learned recently is I am an introvert. Perhaps, I am an extroverted introvert?

Nonetheless, my soul requires the same kind of space that introverts need to thrive. I need time alone. I demand downtime to be my best. I have found myself married to “Fun Guy.”

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"I have known all along what would be best for my children as far as chores, structure etc., but knowing what needs to be done and doing it can often be worlds apart."I am an extremely nurturing mother, but with that has come an unhealthy degree of enabling!

While I am improving, partially due to my new husband who has healthy boundaries and is creating a safe place for me to exercise mine, I have a history which may serve as an illustration for you to check-in with yourself.

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Death During Estrangement

"Perfectly good and loving parents (none of us are flawless) face rejection from children for a variety of reasons." ~Charlotte ChaneyYou may be thinking, Estrangement? “That will never happen to me.”

Think again.
Many of us hear about family rifts and estrangements and wonder, “What is up with those people?”, “What could be so bad?”

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The Pampered Chef vs. The Engineer - A Story of Form vs. FunctionA Story of Form vs. Function

My former father-in-law was an engineer and I never really understood him until I remarried an engineer of my own. I am of the brain-set that coloring within the lines ruins the masterpiece. Being married to an engineer (who loves me just the way I am) has opened my eyes to the mind of a man I once loved so much and sadly lost touch with in my divorce.

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love, joy and peace I was a girl who lived in perpetual fear. I’d watch the news and think, ‘I better do everything I can to make sure these horrible events don’t happen to me.’  If you live your life that way, you never have space for joy. I that know from experience. I had good times. The good times came in flashes, and they never measured up to what I hoped.
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Help My Unbelief

Family vacation to Europe

If you knew how anxious I have been about my impending European vacation with 4 of our 8 children, you’d be like, wait a minute, really?

God was the only one in the room when they shut the vault and filled me with radiation. Others were there but only watching from the camera that connected the rooms, but God was enough.

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He Saved Me!

He saved me!Recently an acquaintance saw how happy I am.

She suggested that my new husband, Bryan, saved me. Nothing could be further from the truth.
I was saved way before I met Bryan. My salvation came during very dark, lonely, agonizing days in my first marriage. Looking back, I know God allowed this dark time to be the means to an end. God wanted me to reach out to Him for His saving grace. Even after my salvation, I prayed hard and fervently for God to fix my marriage. But, God did not change my circumstances. Instead, He revealed to me that He’s with me in every storm I face.

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Be Bold Like A Child

I believe the world is lacking greatness because of the limitations we allow others to prophesy over our lives.What is Holding you Back from Pursuing Your Dreams?”

It is my firm belief that God has designed a vision for your life that lives in your soul. It reveals itself as a desire, a hope or a dream. Many children are bold and confident about their vision. They state:

“I’m going to be a firefighter”
“I’m going to be president.”
“I’m going to be a singer.”
Or, “I’m going to be a ballerina.”

All too often, their dreams get interrupted with practical statements from loved ones, bullying proclamations from peers, or the whisper of the devil himself who says, “you don’t really think you can…”

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We fear things we don't understand and we judge the things we fear.

One thing I have learned recently is that we fear things we don’t understand, and we judge the things we fear.

When I heard that statement, it resonated with me.
Times are rapidly changing. The topic of homosexuality has caused great fear in the hearts and minds of many fundamental Christians. The fearful response has sinfully replaced the faithful response which otherwise says in

1Peter 4:8, “Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.”

In my opinion, this delights the devil. Consequently, the church steadily drives many people away from Christ through die-hard judgement of issues like divorce and homosexuality.

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A Sincere Apology

I refuse to discriminate against anyone because they are gay. will not agree with me on everything I have to say about homosexuality.

I find Christians are starving for someone like me to speak up. I know the Word of God. I live a life dedicated to the one who saved me, namely Jesus. I feel prompted to come forward and announce:

“I refuse to discriminate against anyone because they are gay.”

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